{"id":6530,"date":"2021-07-17T12:45:49","date_gmt":"2021-07-17T10:45:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/joannacholuj.pl\/?p=6530"},"modified":"2021-07-17T12:45:49","modified_gmt":"2021-07-17T10:45:49","slug":"milosc-romantyczna-milosc-toksyczna","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/joannacholuj.pl\/en\/blog\/2021\/07\/17\/milosc-romantyczna-milosc-toksyczna\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107\u00a0romantyczna mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 toksyczna"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"\" dir=\"auto\">\n<div id=\"jsc_c_3jd\" class=\"ecm0bbzt hv4rvrfc ihqw7lf3 dati1w0a\" data-ad-comet-preview=\"message\" data-ad-preview=\"message\">\n<div class=\"j83agx80 cbu4d94t ew0dbk1b irj2b8pg\">\n<div class=\"qzhwtbm6 knvmm38d\">\n<div class=\"kvgmc6g5 cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<h4 dir=\"auto\" style=\"text-align: center;\">Mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 romantyczna mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 toksyczna<\/h4>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Z mojego komentarza u Kriss Nowak:<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">odno\u015bnie wpisu Kateriny (poni\u017cej)<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/jcladyalternativedu\/posts\/352228729581915\">https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/jcladyalternativedu\/posts\/352228729581915<\/a><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6531\" src=\"http:\/\/joannacholuj.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/194232213_301720688359562_6877998821135738860_n.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/joannacholuj.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/194232213_301720688359562_6877998821135738860_n.jpg 500w, https:\/\/joannacholuj.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/194232213_301720688359562_6877998821135738860_n-250x300.jpg 250w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">To mnie zastanawia. Jak gleboko te milosci byly umoczone w toksycznosci religii katolickiej ktorej nie dalo sie usunac w tamtych czasach pewnie a nalezalo sie poddac albo umrzec. A znow takie zycie to jak smierc. Albo gorzej. Na ile tez to byla realizacja rownie toksycznej idei purytanskiej sredniowiecznej idei milosci romantyczno platonicznej z jej ubostwianiem kobiety a negacja ciala i zmyslowosci. I w ogole jaka byla NAPRAWDE dharma Abelarda Heloizy Tristana Izoldy Czy sw Aleksego i wielu innych..nieznanych. Pewnie wcielili sie po to wlasnie by doznac przemocy ze strony kk i tego jak daleko mozna sie posunac w negacji czlowieczenstwa i praw natury w imie dogmy kk&#8230; A z drugiej strony klasztor byl jedynym wyjsciem dla otwartych i niezaleznych jak Hildegarda z bingen.. Czasem faktycznie lepiej bylo skanalizowac poped i bol w umartwienie bo to dawalo kreatywnosc i wizje nawet jesli zrodlo bylo mocno toksyczne. Tylko wtedy nalezalo calkowicie izolowac sie od plci przeciwnej.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">JC<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\n<div class=\"\" dir=\"auto\">\n<div class=\"\" dir=\"auto\">\n<div class=\"ecm0bbzt hv4rvrfc ihqw7lf3 dati1w0a\" data-ad-comet-preview=\"message\" data-ad-preview=\"message\">\n<div class=\"j83agx80 cbu4d94t ew0dbk1b irj2b8pg\">\n<div class=\"qzhwtbm6 knvmm38d\">\n<div class=\"kvgmc6g5 cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">Listy Heloizy do Abelarda oraz<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">fragment listu Abelarda do przyjaciela<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">List pierwszy Abelarda do przyjaciela<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">(&#8230;) Z pocz\u0105tku \u0142\u0105czy nas wsp\u00f3lny dom &#8211; nast\u0119pnie jednocz\u0105<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">si\u0119 serca. Pod pozorem zatem nauki ca\u0142y czas po\u015bwi\u0119cali\u015bmy<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">mi\u0142o\u015bci. A do tajnych schadzek, tak po\u017c\u0105danych i drogich<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">dla zakochanych, nastr\u0119cza\u0142o sposobno\u015b\u0107 dawanie lekcji.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Roz\u0142o\u017cywszy zatem ksi\u0119gi o wiele radziej rozmawiali\u015bmy<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">z sob\u0105 o kochaniu ni\u017c o nauce. Wi\u0119cej by\u0142o ca\u0142unk\u00f3w ni\u017c<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">uczonych wywod\u00f3w. I cz\u0119\u015bciej r\u0119ce dotyka\u0142y \u0142ona ni\u017ali kart<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">ksi\u0119gi. O wiele cz\u0119\u015bciej mi\u0142o\u015bci\u0105 p\u0142on\u0105ce \u017arenice spoczywa\u0142y<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">na licach dziewczyny ni\u017c na martwych literach. I \u017ceby<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">unikn\u0105\u0107 podejrze\u0144, nawet ci\u0119gi i razy nakazywa\u0142a niekiedy nie<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">z\u0142o\u015b\u0107, lecz mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107. Nie gniew, lecz niezwalczony czar upojenia,<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">kt\u00f3ry przechodzi wonno\u015bci\u0105 olejki wszelakie. W mi\u0142osnym<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">roznami\u0119tnieniu nie zaniechali\u015bmy \u017cadnych objaw\u00f3w kochania,<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">ale najdziksze nawet podszepty rozigranej wyobra\u017ani<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">spe\u0142niali\u015bmy. I tym nami\u0119tniej upajali\u015bmy si\u0119 s\u0142odycz\u0105<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">uciech mi\u0142osnych, nie czuj\u0105c dosytu ni nudy, im mniej ich<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">zaznali\u015bmy dot\u0105d (&#8230;).<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">Jednak\u017ce to, co wszystkim wpada w oczy, nie mo\u017ce si\u0119<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">ukry\u0107 w tajemnicy przed jednym cz\u0142owiekiem (&#8230;).<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">O, jaki\u017c b\u00f3l targa\u0142 sercem wuja, gdy si\u0119 dowiedzia\u0142<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">o wszystkim! Jaka\u017c bole\u015b\u0107 z roz\u0142\u0105ki dla zakochanych! Jaki\u017c<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">rumieniec pali\u0142 me lica! Jakie udr\u0119ki \u017calu i skruchy z powodu<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">cierpienia kochanki! Jaka rozpacz szala\u0142a w duszy Heloizy na<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">widok mojego poni\u017cenia! Nikt jednak z nas dwojga nie biada\u0142<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">nad w\u0142asn\u0105 udr\u0119k\u0105 ani nie p\u0142aka\u0142 nad swoim losem, ale oboje<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">wzajemnie cierpieli\u015bmy tylko z powodu niedoli drugiego.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Roz\u0142\u0105ka za\u015b cia\u0142 tym \u015bci\u015blej zespoli\u0142a nam serca. A mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">nasza, nawet nie nasycana nadmiarem szcz\u0119\u015bcia, silniejszym<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">tylko jarzy\u0142a si\u0119 ogniem. Spe\u0142niwszy raz do dna kielich<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">poni\u017cenia i ha\u0144by i z wolna wstydu si\u0119 zbywszy,<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">kroczyli\u015bmy naprz\u00f3d drog\u0105 jawnego zgorszenia, niezdolni<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">stawi\u0107 oporu powabom mi\u0142o\u015bci (&#8230;).<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 romantyczna mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 toksyczna Z mojego komentarza u Kriss Nowak: odno\u015bnie wpisu Kateriny (poni\u017cej) https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/jcladyalternativedu\/posts\/352228729581915 To mnie zastanawia. 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