{"id":6044,"date":"2021-05-17T21:43:42","date_gmt":"2021-05-17T19:43:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/joannacholuj.pl\/?p=6044"},"modified":"2021-05-17T22:08:59","modified_gmt":"2021-05-17T20:08:59","slug":"internet-real","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/joannacholuj.pl\/en\/blog\/2021\/05\/17\/internet-real\/","title":{"rendered":"INTERNET – REAL"},"content":{"rendered":"
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PRZEDRUK ARTYKU\u0141U Z 26. Juni 2020 \u00b7 DODAJ\u0118 ANGIELSK\u0104 WERSJ\u0118 .<\/div>\n
PRINT OF ARTICLE FROM 26th Juni 2020 \u00b7 ADDING ENGLISH VERSION.<\/div>\n
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INTERNET I REAL<\/h4>\n<\/div>\n
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Lubi\u0119 ludzi. Lubi\u0119 Was, ludzie.<\/div>\n
Ca\u0142e moje \u017cycie opiera si\u0119 na szukaniu r\u00f3wnowagi w relacjach. Ca\u0142e moje \u017cycie opiera si\u0119 na relacjach.<\/div>\n
Ja, takie akurat mam przeznaczenie \u017cyciowe.<\/div>\n
Waga. Si\u00f3dmy dom. w wa\u017cnych miejscach horoskop\u00f3w.<\/div>\n
Praca z lud\u017ami. Gadanie o sobie. Podobno nawet prawdziwe powo\u0142anie to GADANIE O SOBIE. do b\u00f3lu. i o b\u00f3lu.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Czy ludzie si\u0119 zmieniaj\u0105 z wiekiem? Troch\u0119. Po 35 roku \u017cycia. Nie zawsze.<\/div>\n
Czy cz\u0142owiek zmienia si\u0119 przez wieki? Troch\u0119. Od epoki technologii. Nie wsz\u0119dzie.<\/div>\n
Internet bardziej ni\u017c kiedy\u015b gazety i ksi\u0105\u017cki, pozwoli\u0142 pisa\u0107 do woli, i po woli. i powoli.<\/div>\n
Nikt ci si\u0119 nie wcina w s\u0142owo. Mo\u017cesz pisa\u0107 godzin\u0119, poprawi\u0107, i zawsze zd\u0105\u017cysz wzi\u0105\u0107 udzia\u0142 w dyskusji.<\/div>\n
Najwy\u017cej powiesz Ostatnie S\u0142owo.<\/div>\n
Internet bardziej ni\u017c \u017cywe s\u0142owo pozwoli\u0142 m\u00f3wi\u0107 wszystkim, tak\u017ce „niepowo\u0142anym”, nie-\u015bmia\u0142ym, nie-okrzesanym. Da\u0142 odwag\u0119 m\u00f3wienia o sobie, m\u00f3wienia prawdy, nawet pomimo istniej\u0105cej mocnej cenzury i autocenzury, m\u00f3wimy wiele prawdy, chyba wi\u0119cej ni\u017c kiedy\u015b.<\/div>\n
Internet sprawi\u0142, \u017ce cz\u0119sto m\u00f3wimy ostro, z serca, bez ogr\u00f3dek.<\/div>\n
Czy to \u017ale? I dobrze. I \u017ale.<\/div>\n
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Czas przyzwyczai\u0107 si\u0119. Intenet to zdecydowanie dawne sejmiki. To pranie po mordzie. Ale i \u015bciskanie tak \u017ce tchu brak. To konszachty za kulisami. To koterie. To plucie na siebie na forum. \u017be tak nie wolno?<\/div>\n
Wolno. Bym powiedzia\u0142a – trzeba.<\/div>\n
Im bardziej cywilizacja dokr\u0119ca \u015bruby i face to face jeste\u015bmy grzeczni, oraz nie\u015bmiali, tym bardziej natura cz\u0142owieka z elementem dziko\u015bci domaga si\u0119 uj\u015bcia.<\/div>\n
\u017be kiedy\u015b cz\u0142owiek by\u0142 bardziej „o-g\u0142adzony”?<\/div>\n
Kto? Polacy co m\u00f3wili pi\u0119knymi makaronizmami a potem lali si\u0119 po mordach pod koniec wesela?<\/div>\n
Kto? Francuzi co m\u00f3wili wierszem w Wersalu, sikali nie tam gdzie trzeba i polowali w perukach na wszy?<\/div>\n
Niemcy? Co piknie grali na pianinie w ka\u017cdym domu a potem budowali obozy?<\/div>\n
Cz\u0142owiek nie zmienia si\u0119 wcale.<\/div>\n
Akcenty rozk\u0142ada inaczej. To tak.<\/div>\n
Natura cz\u0142owieka jest zawsze ta sama. I pi\u0119kna i bestia.<\/div>\n
Jekyll i Hyde. Wszystko jedno jak to zwa\u0107.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Tak wiec, wszystko si\u0119 zmienia i nic si\u0119 nie zmienia.<\/div>\n
W internecie jeste\u015bmy tak samo sob\u0105 jak poza. Wa\u017cne jednak, \u017ceby to POZA by\u0142o. \u017beby zar\u00f3wno POZA jak i nadmierna bolesna szczero\u015b\u0107 znikn\u0119\u0142a.<\/div>\n
Realno\u015b\u0107 tworzy relacje. Tylko realno\u015b\u0107.<\/div>\n
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Realno\u015b\u0107 buduje granice. spojrzysz cz\u0142owiekowi w oczy i zastanowisz si\u0119 nawet czy powiedzie\u0107 mu, \u017ce ma li\u015bcia na g\u0142owie. Najwy\u017cej napiszesz to w piosence. Mo\u017ce kiedy\u015b j\u0105 przeczyta.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Lubi\u0119 Was ludzie. Wydawa\u0142o mi si\u0119, \u017ce lubi\u0119 tylko dzieci. Najlepiej takie ma\u0142e, co jeszcze nie umiej\u0105 m\u00f3wi\u0107.<\/div>\n
Potem okaza\u0142o si\u0119, \u017ce lubi\u0119 i wi\u0119ksze. Dzieci ucz\u0105 przyjmowa\u0107 prawd\u0119 na klat\u0119. I krytyk\u0119. I hejt.<\/div>\n
Zanim kto\u015b zacznie dzia\u0142a\u0107 w internecie, najpierw warto mie\u0107 dzieci \"\ud83d\ude42\"<\/span><\/div>\n
W ka\u017cdym razie – Ja niczego nie \u017ca\u0142uj\u0119.<\/div>\n
Czasem co\u015b online skoryguj\u0119. Ale znam siebie. W realno\u015bci jestem zbyt \u0142agodna, zbyt mi\u0142a. Tak, czasem wchodz\u0119 w s\u0142owo. Ale generalnie pozwalam innym by\u0107, m\u00f3wi\u0107, wchodzi\u0107 na m\u00f3j teren, zajmowa\u0107 moje pokoje, wypowiada\u0107 si\u0119 w moim imieniu i wi\u0119cej. Moja wi\u0119c r\u00f3wnowaga polega na tym, \u017ce w internecie bywam nadmiernie szczera. Wydaj\u0119 si\u0119 by\u0107 zarozumia\u0142a. Kto mnie zna, urealni sobie. Kto nie – to zwykle nie ma znaczenia.<\/div>\n
I jeszcze — nie mo\u017cna w Internecie by\u0107 mi\u0142ym. To medium bez releacji. Tu nie ma relacji. Tu jest tylko ostre s\u0142owo.<\/div>\n
Tu jest hejt i prawda. Albo k\u0142amstwo. Wszystko jedno. Jedno i drugie boli.<\/div>\n
I nigdy nie wiadomo kto ma ostatnie s\u0142owo.<\/div>\n
Wi\u0119c nie polecam by\u0107 mi\u0142ym w internecie, nieszczerym, i stosowa\u0107 autocenzur\u0119.<\/div>\n
Ale to ja.<\/div>\n
By\u0107 mo\u017ce to zale\u017cy od indywidualnego rozk\u0142adu akcent\u00f3w \u017cyciowych.<\/div>\n
To te\u017c oznacza, \u017ce w internecie, nikogo si\u0119 nie karci i nie moralizuje. W internecie si\u0119<\/div>\n
wychodzi z dyskusji<\/div>\n
pisze u siebie na stronie ripost\u0119<\/div>\n
odpowiada filmem z wstawkami polemicznymi<\/div>\n
milczy gdy my\u015bli si\u0119 inaczej w gronie „znajomych”<\/div>\n
wypisuje z grupy<\/div>\n
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wyrzuca z grupy<\/div>\n
tworzy w\u0142asn\u0105 grup\u0119 i w\u0142asne zasady<\/div>\n
wyrzuca ze znajomych<\/div>\n
blokuje<\/div>\n
usuwa hejt w komentarzach<\/div>\n
nie odpowiada na g\u0142upoty<\/div>\n
nie odpowiada za innych<\/div>\n
tylko za siebie<\/div>\n
i to w mniejszym stopniu ni\u017c poza realem<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u017ce to co m\u00f3wi\u0119 niepopularne? \u017ce dzieci si\u0119 hejtuj\u0105?<\/div>\n
NIE. Znowu robota od du..y strony, jak u mnie w rodzinie si\u0119 m\u00f3wi<\/div>\n
Dzieci si\u0119 NIE WPUSZCZA DO INTERNETU za wcze\u015bnie<\/div>\n
dzieciom si\u0119 nie kupuje smartfon\u00f3w w ko\u0142ysce i nie zostawia ich non stop w nimi sam na sam<\/div>\n
Z dzie\u0107mi nastolatkami si\u0119 rozmawia o wszystkim<\/div>\n
Z dzie\u0107mi si\u0119 k\u0142\u00f3ci o media<\/div>\n
Dzieciom ustala si\u0119 konkretne granice i konkretne kary za przekroczenie<\/div>\n
Dzieci si\u0119 chroni przed uzale\u017cnieniem<\/div>\n
Dziecko nastoletnie dopiero si\u0119 uczy jaka jest r\u00f3\u017cnica mi\u0119dzy wypowiedzi\u0105 w necie a w realu<\/div>\n
Dzieciom nie pozwlaa si\u0119 \u017cy\u0107 tylko w necie bez urealnienia w realu<\/div>\n
Internet – zasadniczo – jest dla doros\u0142ych<\/div>\n
Fejsbuk JEST DLA DOROS\u0141YCH<\/div>\n
Powiedzmy \u017ce granic\u0105 jest 16 lat.<\/div>\n
Fora s\u0105 dla doros\u0142ych<\/div>\n
dla dzieci s\u0105 bajki, filmy, youtube gdy rodzic wie co ma\u0142y ogl\u0105da<\/div>\n
Nie jest wyj\u015bciem autocenzurowanie si\u0119 w necie.<\/div>\n
Nie da si\u0119 wszystkich hejter\u00f3w zablokowa\u0107. Nie da si\u0119.<\/div>\n
Czy puszczamy swoj\u0105 nastolatk\u0119 obecnie NOC\u0104 na imprez\u0119 na PRag\u0119? Nie puszczamy? Ewentualnie z kolegami? Jak ma 18 lat? To czemu puszczamy do NOCY internetu? Samotnie?<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I like people. I like you people.
\nMy whole life is based on finding balance in relationships. My whole life is based on relationships.
\nMe, this is my life destiny.
\nLibra. The seventh house. in important places of horoscopes.
\nWork with people. Talking about myself. It is said that even the real calling is TALKING ABOUT HIMSELF. till it hurts. and about pain.
\nDo people change with age? Some. After the age of 35. Not always.
\nDoes man change over the centuries? Some. From the age of technology. Not everywhere.
\nThe Internet, more than before, newspapers and books, allowed to write at will and with will. and slowly.
\nNobody cuts you in on your word. You can write an hour, correct it, and you can always take part in the discussion.
\nYou can say the last word.
\nThe Internet, more than a living word, made it possible for everyone to speak, including „undesirable”, un-daring, uncouth ones. He gave the courage to speak about himself, tell the truth, even despite the existing strong censorship and self-censorship, we tell a lot of truth, probably more than we used to.
\nThe Internet has caused us to speak sharply, heartily and bluntly.
\nIs it bad? its bad. and it s not bad.<\/p>\n

Time to get used to. Intenet is definitely old regional councils (sejmiki – in old Poland) . It’s a wash after the kill. But also squeezing so that I can’t breathe. It’s a backstage deal. It’s a coterie. It’s spitting on yourself in the forum. That this is not allowed?
\nIT is. I would have said – you have to get used to.
\nThe more civilization tightens the screws and we are polite and shy face to face, the more human nature with an element of wildness demands an exit.
\nThat once a man was more „polished”?
\nWho? Poles who said with beautiful macaronicisms and then slaped one another on the face at the end of the wedding?
\nWho? the French who spoke in verse at Versailles, then pissed in the wrong place and hunted lice in their wigs?
\nwho ? the German? who played the piano beautifully in every house and then built camps?
\nMan doesn’t change at all.
\nHe places the accents differently. It’s like that.
\nThe nature of a man is always the same. The beauty and the beast.
\nJekyll and Hyde. It doesn’t matter what you call it.
\nSo everything changes and nothing changes.
\nOn the Internet, we are as much ourselves as we are outside. It is important, however, that before there was OUT. That\u00a0 BEYOND — the excessive painful honesty would disappear.
\nReality creates relationships. Just reality.<\/p>\n

Reality builds limits. you look a man in the eye and consider even telling him that he has a leaf on his head. At most, you can write it in a song. Maybe he will read it someday.<\/p>\n

I like you people. I thought I only liked children. The best are those little ones who cannot yet speak.
\nThen it turned out that I like even the bigger ones. Children teach you to accept the truth straight in your eyes . And criticism. And hate.
\nBefore someone starts working on the Internet, it is good to have children first \ud83d\ude42
\nAnyway – I don’t regret anything.
\nSometimes I can correct something online. But I know myself. In fact, I’m too gentle, too nice in reality. Yes, sometimes I am honest and direct. But in general, I allow others to be present, to speak, to enter my premises, to occupy my rooms, to speak for me, and more. So my balance is that I tend to be overly honest on the internet. IT seems to be cocky. Who knows me will make me real. Who doesn’t – it usually doesn’t matter.
\nAnd yet – you can’t be nice on the Internet. This is a medium with no release. There is no report here. There’s only a harsh word here.
\nHere is hate and truth. Or a lie. Does not matter. Both hurt.
\nAnd you never know who has the last word.
\nSo I don’t recommend being nice on the internet, being dishonest, and self-censorship.
\nBut that’s me.
\nPerhaps it depends on the individual distribution of life stresses.
\nIt also means that no one is to be disciplined or moralized on the Internet. On the internet\u00a0 what one do\u00a0 is:
\n-comes out of the discussion
\n– writes a retort on his website
\n– corresponds with a movie with polemical inserts
\n– is silent when thinking differently among „friends”
\n– unsubscribes from the group<\/p>\n

– kicks you out of the group
\n-creates its own group and its own rules
\n– kicking out of friends
\n-blocks
\n-removes hate in comments
\n-he does not respond to stupidity
\n– is not responsible for others
\njust for myself
\nand to a lesser extent than outside the real<\/p>\n

that what I say is unpopular? that children hate each other online ?<\/p>\n

NO. Again, work from the wrong way (from the ass 's side , as we say in Polish\u00a0 in my family )<\/p>\n

Children ARE NOT TO BE\u00a0 LET ON THE INTERNET too early
\nchildren do not get smartphones in the cradle and you do not leave them alone all the time
\nYou talk to children and teenagers about everything
\nYou argue with the children about the media
\nChildren are given specific boundaries and specific penalties for transgression
\nChildren are protected from addiction
\nA teenage child is just learning what is the difference between a statement on the Internet and in real life
\nChildren are not allowed to live only on the Internet without realism
\nThe internet – basically – is for adults
\nFacebook IS FOR ADULTS
\nLet’s say the limit is 16 years.
\nForums are for adults
\nthere are cartoons, movies, YouTube for children when the parent knows what the child is watching
\nSelf-censorship on the net is not an option.
\nIt is impossible to block all haters. It’s not possible.
\nAre we currently letting our teen go to a PRague’s district (in Warsaw ) party at NIGHT? We do not let go? Possibly with colleagues? When she is 18? Then why do we let our kids go to the internet NIGHT? Alone?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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